Everyone NEEDS help whether they WANT it or not. Help means you support the person, not take or give charge of one's life to the other.
If you care about what others want from you, you will never get to care about what you want.
A leader should prioritise the group over the individual. Individual needs are difficult to fulfil or sometimes almost impossible to meet. But if we fulfil the demand of the group, it makes a fair balance for every group member. Compromise for greater good leads to greater sense of happiness than selfish stubbornness ever will.
These days people are so preoccupied with obtaining money and power that they deprive themselves of very basic needs. Well that's no winner for sure.
We value the things we don't have.