When we help children or old people too much – not only they become more dependent on us but also less empowered from within.
They are not incapable – they’re just either less informed or slow due to aging.
Our way of communication also impacts them – instead of saying ‘I will do it’,we say ‘you can’t do this so let me’.
Help them only when they ask for it – strike a balance between being overbearing and being ignorant.
Do not control – just empower.
We all gamble at some point in our lives.Some of us relish the prizes won,and some of us regret the choices lost.And every conscious being has a tendency to avoid risk that comes at a great cost.So much so that evolution has fixated in us certain reflexes to unconsciously avoid hurtful things.
Ironically,today some of us are voluntarily diving head-straight into life threatening risks.What happened to our survival instincts? Years ago when life was more unstable, we tried to gather (or forcibly take away from others) lots of resources and pass it onto our next generation.Now,we don’t feel the same threat anymore,so we nurture other species as our own,or others of our species as our own,with no feelings of competitiveness or inconvenience.We even engage in high stimulating activities out of nostalgia of our ancestors who had to escape from a bear or something every other day.
So,it goes onto show us that as competition for resources or levels of life-threats go down,we feel more secure and tolerant of each other.Today we see and feel discrimination because deep down we feel insecure of things being taken away from us.Once innovation stands in and everyone is provided for,the word threat itself will cease to exist.
In my recent post ‘brain’ I mentioned that a small plate tricks us into eating less food.
But it is only applicable to a certain types of food or under specific circumstances.
The following article explains another perspective:
A problem is a problem when you deem it as a problem.Instead of regretting your bad choices,focus on correcting its negative implications.You may feel the urge to start over,but the thing is – when you run and fall down,you just get up and start running again; you don’t go back to the starting post and begin running all over again.
Everything in life is a test of your resilience – peer pressure,antagonism,exam stress,job interview,societal standards and what not.Whatever you choose to do will be graded based on a system.When you fail in life,you fail at the system.At that point you must remind yourself that – the system isn’t you.The system doesn’t define you.In fact,it can’t define you because you,me and us define the system itself.
A system exists to create coordination.It is not a metric of success and failure.Whereas a system can be replaced according to the need of the people and time,a person can only be created once and never again.
No matter how academically accomplished,athletically active and superbly successful you are; if you are emotionally empty from within,then you are missing out on something vital despite achieving so much.
Ever seen an animal feasting? It will consume food till its belly is full and then walk away leaving the rest to the other animals.(It could go differently if they either buy a refrigerator or understand the concept of frozen food).
Ever seen a human feasting? It will consume food till its belly reach the rupture point and then walk away with packed leftovers.(It could go differently if either humans try to value the concept of moderation or share with those suffering from malnutrition and starvation).
No language is superior or inferior than the other language.Every language is just a means of communication.And a means of communication must be simple and accessible to all.Whatever it is – broken sentences,incorrect grammar,imprecise vocabulary or off-base accent – it must not hold you back from speaking your mind.
Education provides both academic and emotional growth.Academics is something that a person may or may not put to use in their lifetime.Whereas emotion is a curative feeling that tends to remain in the hearts and minds of people now and forever.
When you read on your social media that you have got a hundred ‘friends’,you feel loved.
But when you read on your social media that you have got a hundred ‘followers’,you feel empowered.