Reinforcement

When you’re trying to change, taking the first step isn’t enough. You have to reinforce your every step to feel the impact to move on to the next step. It can be any miniscule tangible or psychological award. A few words of encouragement to a coffee break, anything will work. Abstinence will plummet your self control and hence your way to the goal. Reinforcement will give you the boost to carry on to the end of the goal.

Willpower

Key to self-control is not abstinence.It is reinforcement.

Abstinence will just make you more hungry.Reinforcement will keep the hunger at bay.

Abstinence equals to eternal monotony.Reinforcement equals to reward you earn for your hard work.

People work (whether they like to or not) for the rewards.May it be tangible or intangible.Nobody works for work itself.People use work as means to reach to an end.

Social

Masses can be more easily influenced than an individual.Being in a social group creates a pressure to follow the social norm.Led by authority we forget our true selves and become part of the group.It is important to save your identity.That’s what makes you sane.That’s what makes you human.

Aside

We are so conscious about things in our life sometimes.Learn to give up.Learn to pull back.Learn to live today to fight another day.It’s only when you rest you store energy to throw it all back out to the universe.

Emotion

Emotion is a state of mind.You can choose to be happy or you can choose to be sad.

It is true that your environment has a big influence on which and how much of a emotion is triggered within you.But you have the choice to feel or not to feel those emotions.

It is like a two-way switch.The outside world will flick on-off your switch as many times as they want because it is just a plaything for them.They are not going to experience any effect after all.

But you are in control of the master switch inside of you which turns on and off on your volition.If your volition is dominated by that minuscule switch that the world is playing with,then you are at their mercy.You have no control over yourself.You don’t get to choose for you.You have lost your freedom.

Control your switch.Take control it because it is yours.Your emotions are yours to experience when you want them to experience.World is a stimulus not a source of your emotion.

Notice

Distraction is the key to developing focus.You can only travel towards focus,when you are aware that you have drifted towards distraction.

You need direction.If you don’t know which way to go,you can follow the path other than where you have no need to go.

Building a tolerance begins with enduring the unwanted.It provides a clear goal: ‘I want this’ and ‘I do not wish that’.

Not only one should be aware about what they aspire to be,but also of what they don’t want to be.Knowing that,you can make better,more refined choices in life.

What other ways can you develop focus?

Harmonize

Your body experiences stress because it is not ready to face something.Change your readiness.When you experience stress symptoms pinpoint it to its source.Once you know the source,you know the cause and when you know the cause,you can be prepared for it.This is prevention.When you eat medicines to suppress your stress symptoms it’s effective,but when is it effective? After you have already experienced the symptoms.Waiting to be treated after suffering doesn’t make sense.You need prevention.It is vital.And prevention comes from readiness.Physical and mental.

Trade

Eating healthy food leads to good physical health and absorbing healthy thoughts leads to good mental health.In the first case,the farmers work hard to reap a good harvest for you.You give them back the fruits of their effort through your own skills and resources.There’s an exchange to promote well-being of all.It works the same for mental health.You can benefit those around you by sending out vibes of positivity for them to absorb.And they will give back the fruits of your endeavor with optimism as well.Again an exchange to promote well-being of all.