Don’t go on making others love you. Understand whether they value you too.
Listening and understanding without judgement is one of the toughest thing one can do.
There are two ways to be critical. Positive and negative . Either you criticise to improve the outcome or you criticise to crush one’s self esteem to cause harm.
Too general results don’t solve specific problems. When you trying to include everyone you dilute your cause and goals for the ones who really need it.
If you control a person’s behaviour too much, they can’t relate to nor can be related to the real world. So why overdo the caring?
Imagine you’re in a boat with some people. All of a sudden you notice a hole in the center of the boat from where water is leaking in to the boat slowly. You warn the others. They all ignore your warnings, saying that it’s nothing to worry about. So what do you do? You remain ignorant or start throwing out the water and fix the hole?
This is something which is happening today. Whether it is on the global scale like climate change or maybe something in your locality which needs fixing. There are some people who remain ignorant, while others do something to bring change.
There’s no way to just save the right people and just let the ignorance perish away. When we see some people not contributing to a group, we get frustrated and stop working altogether hurting everyone’s chances in long run.
All you could hope is your efforts will change people’s mind and melt their hearts.
Being kind and modest is truly dignified.
Prefer discussion over debate because the latter gets people so aggressive.
Communication is not about saying what you want. It’s about conveying your message in a way in which your audience will receive and understand it.
Don’t blame anyone.
True change cannot be accomplished by labeling people, but only by removing those labels through effort.
Pain,shame and isolation are effective ways to bring crude change.For true change,change should come from within.